Carla.
Www.carlascoachingforhealth.com
F: Carlas Coaching For Health
AT SOME POINT WE NEED TO LOOK AT WHAT IT IS THAT MATTERS TO US.... NOT WHAT IS THE MATTER.
My Dad was my 'rock' and someone whom I could rely on when needed. He never faltered with his support and to this day is unmatched with the reliability and stability that he unconditionally offered. Therefore it is of little surprise to me that even in death he still helped/helps me. Some would say the following story is just a co-incidence, others may say it's a miracle. I don't care what people call it, to me it's just my experience of something that happened. Sixteen years ago I returned to Whanganui as a single mum, with no money, no friends, and little local connections. I was struggling with post natal depression and isolation was a big issue. Just to add to my woes my car failed it's WOF, leaving me no choice but to write it off. I was really concerned about this as I knew that having no vehicle would isolate me even further. In the past I was very fortunate to have had a father who had always helped me select my cars, and I was now faced with this dilemma on my own. I had no idea where to start other than to go looking through car yards. Trade Me did not exist back then. My mum suggested that we start at the car dealers where she had traded my dads old car about a year previously. Feeling very un confident and way out of my comfort zone I marched in asserting myself telling the dealer that I needed to buy a car, I had no money, and I begged him to please not sell me a lemon. I informed him that I havnt got a clue what I was looking for because I always relied on my dad to do this and he was now deceased. Once the poor man could get a word in, he gave me that look that says “I know something that you don't”. I took it as arrogance and was preparing myself for the typical sales banter that can accompany such a look. He then lowered his voice and calmly said to me, “Do you want to buy your Dads old car back...do you realise you are leaning on it?” Both my mother and I leapt back, confused and shocked as we slowly identified that yes in fact we were positioned right next to what had been our family car. (Why is it that we often don't see the obvious when we arn't looking for it)! He went on to tell us that the car had come back into the yard just a few days ago after being off the lot for about a year. Not only that, but because the car was so old he wanted to flick it off for the trade in price which meant I could afford it. What was the odds of those sequence of events simultaneously happening in a certain time frame in order for all this to line up? Ridiculously slim I would think! That experience changed the way I looked at things. Apart from the obvious in the fact that I dared to be so arrogant in assuming too much, my belief system also now consists of knowing that sometimes things happen that are way beyond logic, and maybe all we need to do is to stay open to infinite possibilities which defy our own limited beliefs.
Carla. Www.carlascoachingforhealth.com F: Carlas Coaching For Health
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