A lot of folk are living in what I call ‘emergency mode’, heck until recently I was too and I refused to recognise it and found myself caught up. Some folk are very aware that they are running around in this state, which is fine because let’s face it we have things to do and achieve, but hopefully they are remembering to keep things balanced with some down time as well. These folk have a conscious balance of a human do- ing and a human be-ing. For others, they are completely unaware that they are living in emergency mode and it’s not until something happens does that become a realisation. Stress ‘sneaks’ up on us especially when the stress happens little and often becoming chronic, and like any chronic injury what happens is that we become used to it and it doesn’t take too long before it forms part of our ‘normal’. Chronic stress can be a silent killer or destroyer of the quality of our life, and we can often be forgiven for not recognising it due to its subtlety. My heart palpitations that I had been having for the last couple of years have recently stopped which happened to co-incide with a significant change in my life this year. At the time I didn’t link the two and its only hindsight that can reveal this to me now. I’m going to listen and learn from this, to not would be at my peril I believe. There is only so much our mind and body can take in a ‘stressed’ state when we live on the edge. For neuro science enthusiasts they will know this as the Beta state and the more we live in this state the harder life feels as our worlds and thinking gets smaller and smaller. Working as a health coach I know that if we keep focusing on what’s wrong and what’s caused the stress, then we will continue to operate and add to that Beta state. The question needs to be asked; Why would any of us want to undertake anything that keeps us largely focused on what is/ has or can go wrong and that keeps our worlds small and limited?
It is only when we can move beyond what we think defines us do we move into a different state; a calmer state, a learning state, a state where through the space of who we thought we are and our surrender to our present state, that we can transcend. Initially we must talk out our pain and hurt its critical to let it out, to hear it, to identify it, but then we must find a way to move through it. Anyone can talk the talk I’ve found but it’s our actions which really represent who we are If you are seeking support for your mental health or dis-stress and you find yourself supported by someone who constantly and consistently takes you back to the why something is wrong, then it possibly says more about what THEY need more than you. I recommend that you change your support person/people. You also must be prepared to take responsibility for your own thoughts and actions, and to be critically aware of where you attach your happiness. If it always defaults and is critical to something or someone outside of you? Then this could potentially hold you back. It’s time to grow up now that we are adults, to accept that whatever that external stimulus is that we have attached our happiness too, will most likely not be available 24/7 and what then? Until we can address the emptiness within, the cycle of not being content may well continue. It wasn’t until I accepted that it was ME that needed to stop and listen to ME and that perhaps my ‘depression’ and my dis-stress was something that was occurring so that I could PAY ATTENTION to what was crying out inside that was more the ‘truth’ of who I was and what I needed. Only when I go down this pathway of thinking do I get the chance to transform my life and transcend my distress. My recent Butterfly tattoo is a reminder that transformation is creation, and as human beings I believe it’s our greatest gift to ourselves, our whanau, and all others who exist on this planet. Change the world by changing the way we see ourselves. Contact me for an appointment if it’s your time to transform and create the future you seek because it’s probably seeking you too.
It is only when we can move beyond what we think defines us do we move into a different state; a calmer state, a learning state, a state where through the space of who we thought we are and our surrender to our present state, that we can transcend. Initially we must talk out our pain and hurt its critical to let it out, to hear it, to identify it, but then we must find a way to move through it. Anyone can talk the talk I’ve found but it’s our actions which really represent who we are If you are seeking support for your mental health or dis-stress and you find yourself supported by someone who constantly and consistently takes you back to the why something is wrong, then it possibly says more about what THEY need more than you. I recommend that you change your support person/people. You also must be prepared to take responsibility for your own thoughts and actions, and to be critically aware of where you attach your happiness. If it always defaults and is critical to something or someone outside of you? Then this could potentially hold you back. It’s time to grow up now that we are adults, to accept that whatever that external stimulus is that we have attached our happiness too, will most likely not be available 24/7 and what then? Until we can address the emptiness within, the cycle of not being content may well continue. It wasn’t until I accepted that it was ME that needed to stop and listen to ME and that perhaps my ‘depression’ and my dis-stress was something that was occurring so that I could PAY ATTENTION to what was crying out inside that was more the ‘truth’ of who I was and what I needed. Only when I go down this pathway of thinking do I get the chance to transform my life and transcend my distress. My recent Butterfly tattoo is a reminder that transformation is creation, and as human beings I believe it’s our greatest gift to ourselves, our whanau, and all others who exist on this planet. Change the world by changing the way we see ourselves. Contact me for an appointment if it’s your time to transform and create the future you seek because it’s probably seeking you too.
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