It wasn't that long ago I harboured a deep resentment around double standards and injustices, and the more I fought for what I felt was right, the more disconnected I became from myself and from those around me. It's cost me a few relationships over the years. I truly believed that I would find a peace fighting for human rights - and fight I did!. Did I ever find the justice that I sought? No I did not. Instead what I unearthed was even more injustice which in all honesty simply contributed to my anger. Does this mean that Im any less passionate about justice and human rights? No it does not. What it does mean is that I have grown past the need for closure, or to build an army. Whilst I would have happily lead a revolution at the time, I also experienced first hand how stress impacts on us and our families. Fast forward 10 years or so and I've found that being a peaceful warrior far more effective and efficient. Choosing the path of lesser resistance doesn't mean weakness, but rather requires greater strength as it means a recognition of no longer feeding the problem with the same emotion that created the issues in the first place. i.e. anger and resentment. In the words of Einstein " We can not solve our problems with the same thinking that created them" The work of Deepak Chopra, Joe Dispenza, and many more scientists have gone on past Einsteins work and have now proven that all life is vibrational. What this new science tells us is that our emotions emit a signal, or resonance, and what we allow will align, for better or worse. This now makes perfect sense to me why my anger simply exposed even more of the same. My life changed when I moved past my own rage, not by denying my destructive emotions but rather not been dictated by them. What I now do is that every time I feel that rush of red anger, I feel it and acknowledge it and then park it up. What I do next is critical as I counter act it with a very conscious act of sourcing a feeling that brings me peace. Sometimes this means that we might have to risk walking away from those who try to draw us back into their part of the drama, after all we are always in relationship. Taking responsibility for my own anger is empowering, and whilst useful should I need it for a life or death situation, it's a hindrance in day to day living, except to shine the light on where Im getting caught in old dramas. Thinking this way didn't just happen overnight, I had to make it a practice, and as a result Im in a much better position to be able to support people who are struggling with destructive emotions too. When our anger is our default emotion then life is hard, heavy and exhausting, and we tend to externalize it completely on to others irrespective. Im now inspired by great wise teachers that have gone before us like Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela who would not have known the science behind their korero, but ultimately their message was one of peace. I still see red, but I take the time to dilute it to pink - the colour of love not war and the new science can now verify just how powerful love is and what we can achieve through practising it. It may well be the beginning of a new age. www.carlascoachingforhealth.com fb: https://www.facebook.com/CC4Health/
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