I have to confess that all is not what it seems and some seriously twisted things are happening behind closed doors. The warning signs are clear:
I hate the way that he ignores me for lengths of time and only HE gets to decide for how long!
I am just a source of ‘supply’ for him, meeting his needs as and when he demands.
His sense of entitlement is huge. He thinks he owns me and if Im honest he does!.
When he’s done with me? He’s done! I am nothing more then than an inconvenience, discarded like I never mattered. (Yet knowing this, I always go back for more)
Loyalty from him is definately dependent on my levels of supply so it’s important I keep supplying him no matter what even if it means sacrificing my own needs.
At times he nuzzles in closely, closing his little eyes which make him look even more cute and vulnerable, he can be so loving that I just have to attend to his every whim. He also knows I will feel guilty and unkind if I don’t! Yet I know it’s all part of his evil plan. I hate myself for that!.
When I can’t give him the attention he commands he has already worked out how to push my buttons to ensure that I do, after all ANY attention is of some value to this fella.
He knows how to ‘work’ the room when there are others visiting to ensure they only see his cute side. Street angel – house devil this one, but who would ever believe me and after all what does it really matter because he’s just a cat.
Yep my cat is a narcissist ! In fact I think maybe ALL cats are narcissists…
The only thing that my cat cant do, but Im sure he would if he could talk, is to twist my words around to make ME look like the crazy maker! He would say things like
“after everything I’ve done for my human – they are so ungrateful”
“You’re the narcissist dear human – not me!”
“Don’t you put your ‘issues’ on me human – sort YOURSELF out!”
“All I ever wanted was to be loved – poor me”
However, Im grateful my cat can’t talk and we don’t have to go down that track, and if my cat gets too demanding then he’s free to move on as there is plenty more cats to choose from. However I do love my cat and I sure hope he stays because Im confident that we can work this out if we both want it enough, it does and will take compromise however. Be ware though for those cats who don’t want to work it out – let them move on to another unsuspecting supply and look forward to your next kitty and hope like hell it’s not another repeat – or maybe I should play it safe and get myself a dog!.
MIdweek April 2018