
Eventually though I started to use these windows of relief as a way through the darkness, and started to identify what it was that created these little moments of clarity. Was it something someone had said? Was it a movie I had just watched? Something I've read? Something I've eaten? Have I just exercised? Etc etc etc.... I had to be curious, and that was something I was exceptionally good at. Once I started doing that, little by little patterns became easier to identify and I could get some traction. Foundations became stronger and stronger and I started to see that the more I focused on the stuff that I identified that mattered to me, revealed the sort of life that I wanted to create for myself. I started seeing that there was things that I was doing that had been counter productive to my mental health and only I could change some of these things. Slowly the pieces of my once shattered spirit started to come together, with the key being that it was me that was putting the pieces back and not someone else telling me what I should do. Im not convinced we can do this totally on our own though, as we live in relationship with our environment and the people in it. Our conversations, interactions, what we observe. read and process all become integral to our mental health. Don't underestimate the environment or the people we have in our lives for a second. It matters who we socialise and hang out with, it matters what we do and how we behave, it matters how we look after our bodies minds and spirits, it matters how we spend our spare time, it matters that we find our sense of belonging and worth. Concentrating on what is wrong and what is the matter will not bring the freedom that can be had by seeking out and prioritising what is it that matters to us. “I am not what happened to me ….I am what I choose to become” Carl Jung
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