Every day I am reminded how very different we can all be in our thinking, and it always gets me curious as to why?. I know that I am a product of nature and nurture, but irrespective of the origin of my thoughts I still need to take responsibility for them. One of the best pieces of advice a friend gave me once was “for goodness sake Carla, grow up and take charge of your life”... She was fed up with listening to me and my constant on going dramas, one after the other. After I got over the 'ouch' of her outburst I reflected on what she had said and (without admitting it to her) I started opening up to the fact that she might be right!. After all it was me that was at the centre of every single drama or incident, that surely couldn't be a co-incidence. There began a journey of many years of exploration down all sorts of paths, simply seeking a more peaceful way of living. Eventually it was neuroscience which joined up all the dots for me as it provided evidence, which I obviously needed. I learnt that our thoughts are not 'set' in concrete, and that our brains have plasticity which means we can create new tracks of thoughts and make them more dominant than others. I learnt that whatever I put my focus on or whatever I played over and over in my mind created my perceived reality. Every decision I made was made with this 'story' of who I thought I was, and this story plays in the background every minute of every day directing my every choice.. The discovery of neuro plasticity hasn't come quick enough for me, it confirmed things that I knew deep down but never had a practical way to express it or apply it. Science and ancient ways of healing at last are sharing common ground it's just that for me science made it 'real'. I realise it's easy for me to say all this in hindsight, but I dare not believe that 10 years of darkness was all for nothing!. I had to fight hard to get my quality of life back which was extremely difficult as depression is exhausting on all levels, and moving forward for me happened very slowly. It's also interesting that I seem to have done a complete cycle, returning once again to a holistic approach to my health. I know that I need to nourish my physical body with exercise and nutrition, (although the latter is a 'work in progress'). I also have to nourish my mind, and I accept and realise that my emotions are just a clue, they arn't the whole picture and they don't have to control me. The most important componant for me is my spiritual self, as without my feeling of 'connection' to something that is bigger than me, whatever that may be, I struggle with everything else. I don't follow any doctrine, and I don't meditate for hours either, my connection is simply found in very simple ways and I truly believe that spark that is within us is available to all, we just need to find a way to ignite it and Im very grateful to have found mine.
Carpe Diem.
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Carpe Diem.
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