It's no co-incidence that I named my 'blog' in the Midweek 'Expose Yourself' some ten years ago now. Why did I name my column this? Because I believe that it is only through facing our 'selves' (and especially in times of chaos) can we discover who we 'really' are. Our strengths, and our weaknessess, which all fall from what we perceive or believe our-selves to be. The only way past something which reveals to us what we are afraid of, is through it I have found..It's that delicate balance between being able to control what we can but recognising how vulnerable we not only are, but need to be as well inorder for a new future to unfurl. Somewhere in the present moment I have found that there is a tender and fragile balance between controlling and letting go...Some people call it 'being in the moment' other's call it 'presence' it really doesn't matter what we 'name' it I've found - whatever that space is has a vibration and as science now tells us is so magnetic....Thousands times more powerful than any other thought. Although I thought I 'knew' this over a decade ago - I look back and say to myself I really didn't 'know' it at all.. and I suspect I will look back in another ten years saying the same thing. However what only matters to me now is my intention to keep holding the tension between what is realised 'in this moment' and professionally all I can offer is to teach others how to do the same - but like any piece of information it's only going to be as good as our willingness to accept, and practise what we know or have learned - and that will only depend on our value and belief in it...The leap to presence isn't as hard as it seems - but rather the path of least resistance. I would thoroughly recommend it.
According to Gregg Braden we are the only beings on this planet that are able to consciously create.. or in other words we have the potential to be able to determine the difference between making a decision from our head or our heart. The work of Dr Bruce Lipton cell biologist also supports this. These Quantum scientists have revealed that our brain is a 'polarity organ' which means that our logical brain is fantastic at 'thinking' and weighing things up in a yes/no fashion. (for those of us who are fortunate to have a fully functioning brain). This leads to another question, then what is our thinking based on? It's common knowledge now that all our beliefs and values from everything that we have experienced and gave memorable meaning too (positive and not so positive), has informed who we 'think' we are. However this does not mean we are a victim to our own thinking. The same new science and the work of Gregg Braden and The Heart Math Institute has also revealed that the human heart has it's own brain, and is by far the more powerful of the two organs when it comes to making decisions and in fact our heart brain talks to our polarity organ and not the other way around like we have been lead to believe. This little piece of information can be life changing if it is heard, re-remembered and more importantly, practiced. One of the reasons why I now choose to regularly meditate and why it's a recommended practise for all of us is that meditation is proven to reduce the 'white noise' that goes on in our brains and when this 'clutter' reduces we can be more connected to our heart brain. Meditation is also proven to increase immunity and decrease stress, which is worth remembering especially now. When we are more in our heart brain we create a vibration which has a specific frequency, some scientists are calling this 'love', Einstein was one of those. (Love talked about here in the sense of a frequency rather than an emotion). We know when we have hit that frequency because there is such an overwhelming sense of connection that it can not be analyzed in our brain. It's beyond words. When I learnt Heart Coherence as a technique last year in Sedona I bought it back to my practise and have been actively passing this on to my clients in the context of what's happening for them in their lives. Our korero shifts between the need to analyze and talk about what's going on and the need to increase heart vibration and create something other than the experiences that their beliefs are seemingly holding them back from. The work I do can be researched by googling psychoneuroimmunology for those who need to satisfy their polarity organ. We don't need a degree to do this work it's available to all of us and is all over the net. I've recognised for many many years that the science of self help has to start from within and I only got to that point because of a decade of inner turmoil and conflict which was always my leverage to want something 'else' I just didn't know what. I practised lots of external stimulu's which of course lead to a shift internally, it just took a lot longer and it was hard to maintain when working from my logical organ only. I tried much, from crystals, to exercise, to a huge range of products which all supported my wellbeing, but none for me hit my call 'home'. Everyone is responsible for the thoughts they think and the things that we choose as our objects of attention. Personally I found it important to give as many things a go until I found the right ingredients that gave the right meaning for me. If you would like to join a group of like minds to talk about the Heart Coherence work please get hold of me or simply join our group on fb 'Stepping Into A New Paradigm'. Our lives can be explained, considered, talked about and debated , but in the end it will be our feelings that drive us through any experience. www.carlascoachingforhealth.com or https://www.facebook.com/CC4Health/
It's no secret the sort of work I do in my private practise and that it slightly differs than that of mainstream. Personally, for me Im only interested now in any research that comes from where Quantum Science and Philosophy meet, or any sort of values based practices. In mainstream there still is some great professional development available to me, but it doesn't quite hit the spot. What really makes my wheels spin is the work of Dr Bruce Lipton, Gregg Braden, Dr Joe Dispenza, Dr Kerry Spackman, Heart Math Institute, Deepak Chopra and the late Wayne Dyer. Some up and coming physicians are also getting on board with this work as well! If anyone knows of any kiwi physicians who are stepping into the world of Quantum? Please forward them my details!.. I couldn't think of anything more exciting to be part of what appears to be a global awakening. Why am I so passionate about this is not just for fun, and neither is it just riding the latest trend, but rather it's because of my own lived experience. It was these Quantum principles and techniques that took me from just 'surviving' to thriving and also the reason for me starting this column some ten years ago now. Something significant happened to me when applying these techniques that I simply can no longer minimize for fear of being outside the 'norms'. Last year I also attended a conference in Sedona Arizona, where I was privvy to the latest information from The Heart Math Institute and some of the above scientists. This was a real catalyst for me to dive in even deeper into this work and I knew on my return that things would have to change, and they did. It's curious that our biomedical model hasn't yet embraced the work of Dr Bruce Lipton because he is after all a cell biologist? Im wondering what the barrier is there? His discovery some 50 years ago now, is only just getting heard and Epigenetics is now widely accepted in the Quantum Science circles. At the core of his work is the relationship between subconscious beliefs and our responses and environment. There is 4 ways that Dr Lipton says we can shift a subconscious belief and my own private practise offers 3 of those. We look at moving forward based on today, I don't go back to the past, I leave that for those who think they are going to find something there. My work is about tapping into potentials and creating something 'else'.
Im due to be back in Sedona in May for some more professional development with Anita Moorjani, who has one incredible story to tell and who also fully supports the 'heart' coherence and Heart Math kaupapa. If you would like to know more about what I do please find me online or give me a call. Www.carlascoachingforhealth.com fb: https://www.facebook.com/CC4Health/
<3An experience from someone who crossed over the veil:....: " I was given a choice to stay or come back. I was given a message that we make our earthbound life so complicated and it’s not meant to be that way. It’s just about love. To love ourselves, to give love and to receive love. That’s it. We are just meant to ‘be’ and to stop striving to make ourselves perfect. We are earthbound but ultimately we are all part on ‘one’ energy. I know it sounds blase but I was shown this and felt this so clearly.
Since coming back from the veil, my learning has continued everyday from the source. I feel I am everyone and everything and they are all me too. Therefore we are within the energy to be able to attract what we want. That’s why this meme strikes a chord. If there is a belief within you that you don’t deserve what you want or believe that you’ll never get it... then you won’t. It’s as simple as that. The energy that you expend will be matched to come back in.
I’ve been told by numerous doctors I should be dead. They don’t know how I am alive. Even now. From what happened. But I knew I was going to live, simple as that, so I did what my body and mind needed me to do to live. I matched my frequency. I did not even entertain thoughts that I wasn’t going to get better or that i was going to die.
It’s the idea that we are separate from anyone or anything that stops you. It’s that, that halts everything.
I still get sub conscious patterns coming up but I now feel like I am an observer and they end up floating away as the spark of energy doesn’t connect fully to me as I am now. The human experience can be difficult and one of the biggest challenges I’ve had since June last year is everyone else’s opinions on my healing and what I should and shouldn’t be doing rather than letting me listen to what my internal connection is telling me.
It’s quite hard to explain.
Another thing I learned is that we don’t need to keep paying for all these courses.. nobody has the secret to it all... no one is a guru and no one is above us, if we keep holding them in higher esteem we are separating ourselves from the one energy again. I also stand by everyone’s own opinion of what works so I am no way putting down their belief.
Anyway, I hope it helps a little. Remember you have all your own answers within x " DL.. 🌸💓🌈🙏🏻😇
There is nothing woo woo about meditation, all it does is to create a calmer mind to be more present in order to recognise what is the better path of least resistance. When chaos visits, as it does, a calmer mind will ensure we make a better choice for ourselves especially if we have been practising the heart coherence work which not only keeps us grounded and centred on what we REALLY want, it's also where abundance and all unmet needs are met. Decisions when we are in this place of coherence means we will immediately recognise what that path of least resistance looks like. It's harder to NOT be in our hearts than it is to be. The path of least resistance is a return to LOVE or a return to HEARTS. <3 <3 <3
What does it feel like? Expansiveness...freedom...safety...abundance...conectedness...wholeness.. abundance and more.. Its where everything feels divinly planned. It's a path of least resistance. It's the same feeling when we fall in love for the first time....it will bring us to our knees...There is a letting go in this state...we feel vulnerable and yet so empowered all at the same time..AND as conscious adults it's a practice. Once we lift our vibration through this practice its where we re calibrate and energy flows..and we will know how we are calibrating by what we attract..? and we need the contrast to teach us .. it's not about good and bad - it's just about alignment and letting go and going home.
Too many lives are being affected by out of control adults and frankly Im tired of witnessing what can now only be seen as an epidemic of people who can no longer handle their emotions. When are we going to stop enabling these characters and making excuses for them? Being emotionally numb, or not being able to emotionally regulate themselves enough to be able to offer those around them a level of personal safety is not the fault of others, but rather a reflection of their inability to emotionally mature. Sure as children I understand that these folk would have possibly learnt this bad behaviour due to what they too would have been exposed too, but it's no longer a good enough excuse. Research however suggests that not all these tricky personalities had trauma in their lives, some were jellyfished and put on a pedastal by their over indulging parents. Neither the overcontrolling bullying authoritarian parent or the jellyfish parent are ideal for teaching little humans to become well functioning big humans. Where are we taught this I think to myself? We need a parenting school, or should we have compulsory parenting courses for every new parent? But whatever the context and reason that people grow up to be controlling adults, it's time for these characters to grow up and emotionally develop, but someone needs to show them how. A healthy relationship to these folk usually has a different meaning to them, and sits more in control or be controlled rather than them having a concept of mutually sharing the power of the relationship. They also have quite a distorted sense of needing to be needed to the point that it's a personal offence if you don't need them to the degree that they think you should. Working with energy as I do, I have come to learn how these folk prey and feed off their unsuspecting victims. The partner is not seen as an equal but rather something to be conquered. How you can weed out a narc personality from the get go is to mention something about you not 'needing' this relationship but rather 'wanting' it! Expose your heart and watch as he or she responds. If they fly into a rage and toss their toys out of the cot ? Then you're looking down the barrel of a smoking gun. Get out of the relationship right there!.. However, if you're the really compassionate type what you'll probably do is to make excuses for their behaviour, feel sorry for them and think you've got a grip on this (possibly because you yourself might have some subconcious beliefs of needing to be needed) and all you have to do is to keep loving them more and things will be unicorns and rainbows again. Wrong move!..It will never be that again, despite having the odd taste now and then. They will know they dynamic really well and will just throw you some crumbs now and then to keep you guessing. If you've found you've missed the sign posts and you're in deep? it's much harder to just walk away. You're probably now addicted to this toxic reality and the pull to keep 'working' at what you know deep down isn't working is excessivly strong!..They're like a drug to you and the need for those unicorns and rainbows has now become the obsession. It cracks me up when people say “just leave” as they clearly have no idea or have experienced this type of relationship. Those who have will know exactly what Im talking about here. It's a tricky and confusing one to get out of, but it will never ever get better, in fact it will get worse. I think we need some more relationship support services who talk into these dynamics as we seem to have lost the art of something here or is it that we just have a new 'breed' of human coming through? I don't know. What I do know is that holding the tension of staying loving and compassionate and being abused and an emotional door mat is real and it's not talked about enough, at least not until another life is lost to an out of control adult. And those who support these folk when they know there is abuse (of any kind) happening are in my mind just as bad and need to be called on it as well. So remember how you know if you are in a dangerously controlling relationship is to put down some boundaries and see what happens, and if you are too afraid too? Then that in itself tells you a very big story. It's time to leave! and if you can't because you're in too deep? Seek support. Whilst it's not your fault that you find yourself in this position, it's going to be your responsibility to change it sadly and you are going to need as much support as possible. If you are still feeling sorry for them? Then consider that you leaving them might be the catalyst for their change where there could be an opportunity for them too, just not with you. Stay safe.
We are now living in a time, I feel, where bandaiding is no longer enough. It's time to dive in deep! and in my experience, we can either do that the long hard way? where things might even get chaotic? which of course leaves us responding from a vulnerable position. Or we can start to generate the life we want by being overwhelmingly honest with ourselves and taking some ownership for our own emotions. My philosophy on life is that generating the life we seek actually starts IN rather than out - and that the response to external stimulus is simply a reminder that we need to go inside to cause a different effect. Some may know this as the law of attraction. Change your vibration and change your life.
The tall poppy syndrome describes aspects of a culture where people of high status are resented, attacked, cut down, strung up or criticized because they have been classified as superior to their peers. Who decides what 'high status' means? It is soley the 'perception' of the person who is criticizing. Perception can only come from a place of our own belief system, and do belief systems change? Absolutely they do!.. It then becomes a bit of a choice as to what beliefs we consider are healthy for us and what isn't. Some beliefs are there to protect us which is vital... But other times those perceptions need to be challenged. People are always only going to resent in others what has not yet been reconciled in themselves. So don't hold back!.. Shine your light because it's not about YOU and everything about them! and if we all took responsibility for our perceptions? ... Well.. I can only imagine what that would feel like.
An Australian study has found that adding just one strength training session to your weekly fitness regime can lead to significant mental health improvements and more specifically that combining strength training with aerobic activities is likely to make a considerable difference. Dr Yorgi Mavros, a senior lecturer at the University of Sydney goes on to say that there is some belief that exercise may target the same pathways as antidepressants.
Having being in this position from both sides of the fence, i.e. someone who has struggled with depression between 30 and 40 years of age, and YET was an exercise instructor I feel I can talk into this subject from both sides. Firstly lets be really clear that when depression is part of daily life the energy levels are ridculously low as the body and mind are in fight or flight when awake. Sleep, can be minimal if depression's best friend 'anxiety' is also present!.. It's a viscious cycle and one which a lot of people simply don't understand. For those who, with good intention, recommend exercise when we are depressed, may not understand the physical exhaustion that goes with depression. The very thought of choosing to exert oneself when having hardly any energy to crawl through the day is very contraindicative. So how did I manage to do that? I've thought about this a lot and I can only conclude that my deeper beliefs around my sense of responsibility to others exceeded my responsibility to my own needs. Now I understand more about the power of our subconscious beliefs and how those beliefs dictate 95% of our day, it all makes more sense. I feel sad for those I lived with during that time as they were the only ones who had full insight into my state. Also looking back and knowing what I now know about depression, being a high functioning depressive made me quite a high risk. I thank god for my job as an exercise instructor as manufacturing those hormones may well have been part of the catalyst of recognising that I had some small control over my own thinking. I started recognising that the days that I exercised I had a subtle relief from myself.. My thinking turned from black thoughts to grey on my exercise days – and that was no co-incidence.
I have to be honest though if depression is the reason why you are going to turn your hand at exercise? Whilst it's a healthy and fantastic starting place, on it's own it may not be enough for a sustainable change, I guess it all depends on the degree of the depression. Mine was deeply entrenched and for me I found exercise was a great band aid and gave me peace for a day but it wasn't the long term solution that I craved. What gave me the sustainability and moved me away from depression was more coherent work so I could permanently create the hormones I needed. This required a practice which really has gone on to inform the rest of my now private business. I've been sharing my story for many years now in an NGO that supports people who struggle with their mental health, and I would like to think that it's had some impact on people's lives. Although my position has changed in my NGO work, I still am able to support people in my private practise. It's not rocket science how I support people, and it's all over the net now which is fantastic. However some folk still need that face to face support and Im thrilled I'm still able to pass on to other's how I got through my depression and anxiety for those who are ready to take the deep dive in with someone whose been in there but can now support others out. I also continue to take exercise classes on a Tuesday and Thursday @ 5.30 and a Wednesday and Thursday morning for rehabilitation or seated exercise options. The photo is Peter Jamieson – one of my clients who proves that strength training is valuable for any stage of life.