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Its All Semantics

7/27/2020

If there was ONE thing that someone could have taught me when trying to battle the destructive thoughts in my head years ago, it would have been some brief education around basic neuro science and 'semantics'. I've had plenty of counselling and 'therapy' over the years but it was neuro science that really put me in the drivers seat of my own life. Some simple education combined with some basic practises could have saved me and my family years of distress and disruptiveness. However, I can't change the past but I can use it as leverage for any future bumps in the road, plus the added bonus of being able to pass this on to others who want to know. In my life I have been told by many that it's NOT OK to be so emotional!.. Ha!.. Well quantum science begs to differ and turns out that being aware of our emotions is key to our mental/emotional/physical and spiritual wellbeing. Also turns out that our feeling centre is our 'heart' and it has more neural pathways in than our brain. We've been fed a bit of a lie in that it's our feelings that can more effectively shift our thinking rather than the other way around. Obviously the key is to have a degree of awareness, without awareness we can't take the next step of regulating our selves if that's what's needed. As a mindset Coach it's my role to offer support and techniques that assist us in moving past some of those really destructive emotions that keep us stuck in a recognized pattern. I don't encourage people to tell me their 'story' or the context of their stress, because the past is not where the answers are. The past is the WHY but the past can't offer the HOW to move forward, only the present moment can. I appreciate that it can be difficult to break patterns of a life time even when we recognize that what we are doing or not doing is destructive for us. I like to think of this 'stuckness' like an addiction and in order to let go of something we don't want, we need to start with knowing what we DO want. As a coach I get to hear and see the fear of the need to let go in order for something new to come in. However it's also why people come to see me, to talk about 'letting go' of the feelings which might be getting in the way of their happiness. We didn't learn how to drive a car by simply reading about it, watching others, or constantly talking about how much we wanted to do it!. We had to jump behind the wheel and start DO ing it. It's the same process when we know we need to change something in our lives to improve our wellbeing, and only by taking either a step or a leap into unknown territory can lasting change and new habits form. Im running regular workshops all about this, or I meet with people one to one. The next workshop is in September, so if this speaks to you for any reason please contact me or 'like' my fb page to keep updated.
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Chante Ishta

7/7/2020

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The search for 'truth' can sometimes take us down the path of science, and yet even science it seems is conflicting at times. Being a bit of a self confessed 'geek' in this area this is what I've discovered so far, and as a follower of the work of quantum scientists this is my lamans understanding of the conflict and the common ground. Newtonian physics is the physics of everyday things that we can see, from pebbles to planets. Quantum science on the other hand is the physics of the atoms, particles to wave, or energy fields. Both sciences are super accurate but they are fundamentally different. In Newtonian physics identification of all the properties can be done, and it's easily calculated because of being able to clearly identify cause and effect. i.e. something exists and it's causing something else because of it's existence. In quantum science however, through simple observation, the effect is caused. i.e. we create the effect through what is observed. Simply put, quantum therefore relies on the powers of observation from the observer to create an actualization. There is a common ground here in this context though, and that is 'what we focus on is going to grow in magnitude' no matter what science lens we look at things through. So my thinking around this relative to personal health is that it's really critical what we focus on. This is where our attitudes and our upbringing significantly matters as between 0 and 7 years of age we are literally downloading some fundamentals of who we think we are, for better or for worse. The bigger an emotion attached to any experience, the more crystallized it then becomes, have that experience over and over again and beliefs get more firmly entrenched and inform our personal reality - or our personality. Then when we are adults and we discover that some of that stuff is getting in our way of living a life we want, we then have to change some habitual ways of thinking. Im a little more simpler these days with less focus on what's wrong and more on what's right, which brings me more of a life of thriving rather than one of just surviving. I now work smarter not harder! and are able to coach others who seek the same. Not everybody wants to take the path of lesser resistance, but having experienced both I know categorically which one I now choose. Great philosophers and shamans have always known that we need to seek within first, and quantum science certainly supports that as it's from that platform that we get to create rather than wait for something or someone else to come along. I see the two sciences mentioned more simply described as the " what comes first the chicken or the egg" analogy, and in quantum science they can exist simultaneously, however the other science one would come before the other. So if you would like to know more about how quantum science and applying 4 simple principles can increase your creativity and quality of life, please don't miss my small workshop on the 8th August. It's limited to 7 people. Details on my fb page Holistic Coaching - By Conscious Design or private message me. www.carlascoachingforhealth.com

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Revolution or Evolution?

7/4/2020

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It wasn't that long ago I harboured a deep resentment around double standards and injustices, and the more I fought for what I felt was right, the more disconnected I became from myself and from those around me. It's cost me a few relationships over the years. I truly believed that I would find a peace fighting for human rights - and fight I did!. Did I ever find the justice that I sought? No I did not. Instead what I unearthed was even more injustice which in all honesty simply contributed to my anger. Does this mean that Im any less passionate about justice and human rights? No it does not. What it does mean is that I have grown past the need for closure, or to build an army. Whilst I would have happily lead a revolution at the time, I also experienced first hand how stress impacts on us and our families. Fast forward 10 years or so and I've found that being a peaceful warrior far more effective and efficient. Choosing the path of lesser resistance doesn't mean weakness, but rather requires greater strength as it means a recognition of no longer feeding the problem with the same emotion that created the issues in the first place. i.e. anger and resentment. In the words of Einstein " We can not solve our problems with the same thinking that created them" The work of Deepak Chopra, Joe Dispenza, and many more scientists have gone on past Einsteins work and have now proven that all life is vibrational. What this new science tells us is that our emotions emit a signal, or resonance, and what we allow will align, for better or worse. This now makes perfect sense to me why my anger simply exposed even more of the same. My life changed when I moved past my own rage, not by denying my destructive emotions but rather not been dictated by them. What I now do is that every time I feel that rush of red anger, I feel it and acknowledge it and then park it up. What I do next is critical as I counter act it with a very conscious act of sourcing a feeling that brings me peace. Sometimes this means that we might have to risk walking away from those who try to draw us back into their part of the drama, after all we are always in relationship. Taking responsibility for my own anger is empowering, and whilst useful should I need it for a life or death situation, it's a hindrance in day to day living, except to shine the light on where Im getting caught in old dramas. Thinking this way didn't just happen overnight, I had to make it a practice, and as a result Im in a much better position to be able to support people who are struggling with destructive emotions too. When our anger is our default emotion then life is hard, heavy and exhausting, and we tend to externalize it completely on to others irrespective. Im now inspired by great wise teachers that have gone before us like Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela who would not have known the science behind their korero, but ultimately their message was one of peace. I still see red, but I take the time to dilute it to pink - the colour of love not war and the new science can now verify just how powerful love is and what we can achieve through practising it. It may well be the beginning of a new age. www.carlascoachingforhealth.com fb: https://www.facebook.com/CC4Health/

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Its All Semantics

Chante Ishta

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