We are now living in a time, I feel, where bandaiding is no longer enough. It's time to dive in deep! and in my experience, we can either do that the long hard way? where things might even get chaotic? which of course leaves us responding from a vulnerable position. Or we can start to generate the life we want by being overwhelmingly honest with ourselves and taking some ownership for our own emotions. My philosophy on life is that generating the life we seek actually starts IN rather than out - and that the response to external stimulus is simply a reminder that we need to go inside to cause a different effect. Some may know this as the law of attraction. Change your vibration and change your life.
The tall poppy syndrome describes aspects of a culture where people of high status are resented, attacked, cut down, strung up or criticized because they have been classified as superior to their peers. Who decides what 'high status' means? It is soley the 'perception' of the person who is criticizing. Perception can only come from a place of our own belief system, and do belief systems change? Absolutely they do!.. It then becomes a bit of a choice as to what beliefs we consider are healthy for us and what isn't. Some beliefs are there to protect us which is vital... But other times those perceptions need to be challenged. People are always only going to resent in others what has not yet been reconciled in themselves. So don't hold back!.. Shine your light because it's not about YOU and everything about them! and if we all took responsibility for our perceptions? ... Well.. I can only imagine what that would feel like.
An Australian study has found that adding just one strength training session to your weekly fitness regime can lead to significant mental health improvements and more specifically that combining strength training with aerobic activities is likely to make a considerable difference. Dr Yorgi Mavros, a senior lecturer at the University of Sydney goes on to say that there is some belief that exercise may target the same pathways as antidepressants.
Having being in this position from both sides of the fence, i.e. someone who has struggled with depression between 30 and 40 years of age, and YET was an exercise instructor I feel I can talk into this subject from both sides. Firstly lets be really clear that when depression is part of daily life the energy levels are ridculously low as the body and mind are in fight or flight when awake. Sleep, can be minimal if depression's best friend 'anxiety' is also present!.. It's a viscious cycle and one which a lot of people simply don't understand. For those who, with good intention, recommend exercise when we are depressed, may not understand the physical exhaustion that goes with depression. The very thought of choosing to exert oneself when having hardly any energy to crawl through the day is very contraindicative. So how did I manage to do that? I've thought about this a lot and I can only conclude that my deeper beliefs around my sense of responsibility to others exceeded my responsibility to my own needs. Now I understand more about the power of our subconscious beliefs and how those beliefs dictate 95% of our day, it all makes more sense. I feel sad for those I lived with during that time as they were the only ones who had full insight into my state. Also looking back and knowing what I now know about depression, being a high functioning depressive made me quite a high risk. I thank god for my job as an exercise instructor as manufacturing those hormones may well have been part of the catalyst of recognising that I had some small control over my own thinking. I started recognising that the days that I exercised I had a subtle relief from myself.. My thinking turned from black thoughts to grey on my exercise days – and that was no co-incidence.
I have to be honest though if depression is the reason why you are going to turn your hand at exercise? Whilst it's a healthy and fantastic starting place, on it's own it may not be enough for a sustainable change, I guess it all depends on the degree of the depression. Mine was deeply entrenched and for me I found exercise was a great band aid and gave me peace for a day but it wasn't the long term solution that I craved. What gave me the sustainability and moved me away from depression was more coherent work so I could permanently create the hormones I needed. This required a practice which really has gone on to inform the rest of my now private business. I've been sharing my story for many years now in an NGO that supports people who struggle with their mental health, and I would like to think that it's had some impact on people's lives. Although my position has changed in my NGO work, I still am able to support people in my private practise. It's not rocket science how I support people, and it's all over the net now which is fantastic. However some folk still need that face to face support and Im thrilled I'm still able to pass on to other's how I got through my depression and anxiety for those who are ready to take the deep dive in with someone whose been in there but can now support others out. I also continue to take exercise classes on a Tuesday and Thursday @ 5.30 and a Wednesday and Thursday morning for rehabilitation or seated exercise options. The photo is Peter Jamieson – one of my clients who proves that strength training is valuable for any stage of life.
My father was known as 'Jack' although his birth name was Trevor. It's my understanding that he got his name because he was a 'Jack of All Trades. My Dad had a near death experience when he was a boy, and luckily for me I was privvy to hearing the tale. There has been 2 or 3 experiences that my Dad shared with me when he was alive that certainly peaked my innate interest in the unexplained, miracles, etc. It's the experiences that go beyond our normal human senses that Im particularly interested in. Perhaps it was my Dad's experiences which started my interest in all things mystical? Or maybe it just activated the Romany Gypsy in me which is part of my whakapapa. I'll never know. What I do know however is that out of the 3 girls in the family I'm the only one who has ventured down the rabbit hole of being curious about this thing we call the human experience and everything that brings.
It's also curious that I've had plenty of time to get a 'qualification' in whatever I could have chosen too and yet havn't? Perhaps Im too a 'Jack of All Trades' and master of none when it comes to completing qualifications. I've done a little of a lot; Counselling, Psychotherapy, Hypnotherapy, Energy Psychology, Neuroscience, Rehabilitation, Fitness, and even Management and they have all informed my life and consequently my work. I havn't yet found a qualification that firmly 'fits' what I seek either. It's like I knew when I got what I needed and I moved on to something else. I've never actually wanted to be a teacher of anything, I simply learn what I 'think' I need too for that time and keep growing. Im the perfect example of “I teach what I most need to know” I'm simply a student of life who passes on 'stuff' to whoever might be interested. I've been pondering also that there could be another more logical reason why I havn't gained a qualification? As I reflect from hindsight from my comfy 50 plus stage of life, I've come to a place of understanding through learning, where I can see the 'clash' of the sciences that underpin our current 'mainstream' of thinking. All I can say is thank goodness for the internet where I can do my own research in ways that I want to learn, because to date I've yet to find any qualification that firmly sits where I personally need it too for me. Although saying that in my current studies I have an awesome tutor who accepts my submissions and is open to exploring the 'new' (not new) science with me. Now that's what I call a great teacher! I'm looking forward to finding a piece of work where I can reference 'particle entanglement'.
There's also an irony in that I never aspired to be 'anything' but a student of life, It never ceases to amaze me how I came to be doing what Im doing, as I never set out to teach anything. Who would have thought I would become an exercise instructor when all I simply wanted to do was dance to music? And yet the opportunity presented itself and I thought well why not get paid for something I love to do. That was some 30 years ago now and I'm still going strong. How? Because I LOVE it still just as much if not more. It's been the same with my Mind Set Coaching and Counselling, why not get paid for something that I'm passionate about? My coaching work I find to be so fulfilling as it's where we can connect far deeper and go beyond the surface intellect. It's where we can talk about the bigger questions and together try make some sense of it all. Im certainly nobody's expert but I try to be my own, and I just happen to have picked up a lot of information and skills along the way that could be useful to others. I guess the message here is: Find your passion and do that! And you will always be satisfied and if you're a bit lost? Then find someone to support you find it.
I'd like to start the New Year with a clear intention, and that is one of emotional heart health and coherence. You'd have to be living in a cave to not have come across all the latest information and research about what quantum scientists refer to as the quantum field, and how as humans we are recievers and transmitters of information and connected to this 'field'. Up until now we have only had access to these concepts through myths and stories passed down from generation to generation, articulated and expressed relative to the time. Those of us that make the leap to explore quantum science soon discover the paralells between science and these ancient stories, all believably leading back to love and the heart. We also quickly discover that the quantum reality is full of irony and paradoxes, not helpful for those who 'need to know' as one discovery or question leads to the next. I see it like star gazing and contemplating the 'universe', A space where we feel expansive humbled and wonder filled whilst understanding that we will never 'know' and the mystery will remain for eternity. If you're someone who requires a 'concrete' answer in making sense of this experience we call life, then the quantum pathway is going to be frustrating as you won't find the clear cut ness here but rather spirals of forever unfolding understandings where it is only in each moment that we can observe what we seek but understand we are already what we seek.
Our heart is related to our central nervous system, and positive emotional states, and has an impact on our cells, and equally so negative emotions also have an impact on our cells. This is why if we really want to have a more balanced discussion about health we have to include this information dont we? It's also why I include muscle testing as an option for those who understand the link. The Heart Math Institute is a great place to start for those who seek more science about the interconnectedness between human beings and the planet. I was lucky enough to attend one of their conferences in Sedona last year, and I continue to follow their work. There is research that reveals connection between the earth's magnetic field, the human brain and heart, and the body's cells and tissues. How I wish that 'interconnectedness' was taught in schools, imagine how we might look at emotional regulation differently if we were taught about the power of our selves? I believe, like a lot of others, that it's time to expand our way of thinking to the Body/Mind/Heart/Earth connection to catch up with what science has revealed. Why wouldn't we? What's to lose if we acknowledged our emotions and see them as a pathway for evolution rather than something to be numbed? Im now wary more than ever of any person or substance that requires a 'shutting' down or 'numbing' down of my true emotions, they are nothing more than distractions. I need to acknowledge my emotions in order to manage them. Even those in business management understand this concept of measuring being essential to managing!. Talking therapy in my experience is a great place to start but only to those who deeply listen without trying to fix or save me, that just adds to the distraction.
Did you know that the heart’s magnetic field can be detected several feet away and gives off the strongest field in the body? It's no surprise that in fetal development it is the heart that forms first. Im no scientist obviously, but I'm someone who is deeply interested and is informed by this information and who for whatever reason seems to be able to reframe it through simple and practical applications.
Why I choose to coach in the way that I do is because of all of the above, and it all started because of my own need to practise being the change that I wanted to see to lift me from a dark place. I now feel driven to share what I have learnt along the way for those who are interested. In the ideal world this would be a free service, but it hasn't reached mainstream nearly enough yet so I have to sit in the private sector. We all have the privilege to accept, reject, or to be curious, it's called free will and arn't we so privileged to have it? We get to explore the information that we choose to, and how exciting is conflicting information if it makes us stop and consider where we sit in our own life? Conflict and vulnerability to me are essential to heart health and coherence, and I feel very privileged to be able to support people align to a happier 'heart' through supporting people to discover for themselves what it is that makes them happy. That's always the starting place and then we work backwards, unlike mainstream who starts with what's wrong. A co-incidence that heart and earth are made up of the same letters? Personally I don't think so. Please like my page on fb if you want to be kept up to date with up coming events and special offers.
Arnt we lucky and privileged to have FREE choice...🙄 .. Choices can be constructive or destructive but ultimately our choices are 💯% ours alone irrespective of who or what lead us to this moment...which choice succeeds depends on our willingness to let go..In my experience we become stuck When we have our foot on the accelerator and the brake at the same time. Something has to give if we want to move one way or another. Stepping into new ways of thinking can be very uncomfortable BECAUSE it's new and unfamiliar territory and our instincts kick in and we want to go rushing back to the familiar where at least it's predictable. IF that familiar is working for you? then what's the problem? There clearly is none. IF however they arn't, then the only way to move past it is through that vulnerability of not being in control as NEW ways of creating are determined. Either way we are going to create for ourselves, it really boils down to how we use that energy, either for our growth or our undoing. Im very privilaged to be able to walk with those who are ready to take the steps into the unknown but I'm only there to support, encourage, and sometimes challenge - Ultimately you have to do the work for you and your happiness is worth the investment.💜
History has shown us that on the other side of revolution is evolution. The question that I now ask myself is WHY wait for chaos when I can create right NOW. And if I find myself sitting at the table of creators who want to destruct rather than construct and there's no room for negotiation? then it's time to leave the table unless I of course want to become part of something which isn't true to my nature. It pays to know who you're sitting with and why.
Of course included in our society is those who have a need for destruction and chaos, and at times the levels of destruction are so traumatic for others that there is a need to isolate those who rampage through society. They, like the rest of us, sit at their own table of creation and they too have choices if they seek it. The table I will continually sit at is the one that explores WHO do I THINK I AM? and it's only because of the contrast that I am able to keep exploring that.
Why does it matter that as human beings we keep being the best version of ourselves? and where does chaos sit in all this zen talk? 💥💥💥What say if we are simply a bunch of trillions of cells (which we are) which to something bigger we are but one part of? and that 'something bigger' is a cell of something bigger still? A micro system to a macro system! and why does that matter? Tell that to a wayward cell within our own bunch of cells and it quickly reveals that it's worth a shot of all our cells being on the same page!. Why are we talking cells? because cells reveal the science behind the what once was 'mystical' language. Quantum Science tells us that a cell is but a vortex of energy that only exists because its observed..💥 How do we observe ? Through our conscious mind/body, that's why using our thoughts and raising our consciousness to be on the same page - matters (or not matters lol) and it's through the duality that we get to discern as duality has to exist in order for constant creation!!! Science knows this already. 😱😱..Or put simply, perhaps we are literally feeding ourselves back on and through ourselves, and we have the power of choice through our experiences whether we choose limitation or optimisation. 🌎🌎🌎 www.carlascoachingforhealth.com
I love my 'aha' moments! They're my clue and a cue to what motivates me. These moments particularly excite me because I recognise that Im about to discover something or re-discover something from a slightly shifted perspective, revealing another layer of whoever I 'think' I am. I accept that this is just part of the great unfurling of this experience called my life and the 'mind' through which I filter all experience. It's what I do with my thoughts that will then amount to the greater sum and total of who I am. I don't believe there is no inequity when it comes to our own thinking as adults, unless we have significant brain damage, but even then with the right environment and resources we all know about the brains ability to create new neural pathways when a specific algorithm is followed. Perhaps what we are talking about more here is the aptitude and ability to be our own self critic in a constructive way rather than a destructive way. I havn't yet met anyone where that has come naturally, it's been either deliberate and willingly learn't somewhere along the way, or has been the result of resilience through some traumatic or chaotic event.
As adults, we all have the ability to think about our thinking and the choices we make in spite of our circumstances, made extremely difficult however when through relationship there is abuse of power present. We are all emotionally challenged with our own sense of power and control and regulation of it, but there's those who are emotionally constipated. These folk for whatever reason can not, or will not, bring out their own self critic, they would rather take their discomfort out on others leaving a wake of pain and chaos. They too have just as much opportunity to look at their own patterns of behaviour and how that inter relates with those around them, but unless something switches that 'light ' on they often don't. Watch out for those who attach their entire happiness and unhappiness on to something or someone, as they have not emotionally matured enough yet to see what they are doing. This really falls into the korero around addictions, we talk about the addiction to drugs, alcohol, etc but addiction to power through the fine line that exists between love and hate and control and vulnerability needs to be talked about more. The sense of self entitlement that some folk have is a vicious cycle for them, as the more they feel what they are lacking? The more lack they will feel and so it goes on adding to their constipation.
t's all very well being able to identify this but what do we do? How do we actualize what we conceptualize? That question for those that seek the answers is the reason why I have a private practise. Who knows maybe one day mainstream might catch up to what modern science has revealed and this work will inform core practices, but for now I just have to keep chipping away on my own. It's no longer mystical thinking as quantum science is now measuring our intentions and the interrealtionship between our thinking and our vibrational field. As human beings we have this incredible power available to us, think of it as unlimited data! It's how we use that data through our conscious choices that materializes - even to not choose is a conscious choice!.
If we arn't happy with how life is working out for us, in order for something different to happen we need to let something go to let something else in and our degree of hold and grip on the familiar is key to the success of that transition. The work of Dr Bruce Lipton Cell Biologist reveals that our subconscious drives 95% of our daily choices. The first we might notice that something needs to shift in and around us is when we feel 'stuck'. Quantum science says that we are going to create anyway, so we may as well attach some choice to how we do that through our intentionality. I am very excited to be able to walk with people either directly or indirectly through the services that I provide which of course includes my fitness classes as well as my mindset coaching. My services look simple enough on the outside but beneath the surface lies some very comprehensive understandings.
This leads me to thanking you the readers for yet another year of being part of my life and I hope I was a part of yours. A very special thank you to Paul Brookes and the wonderful work that he does in creating our Community newspaper The Midweek – You can NEVER retire Paul!.. I wish you all a Meri Kirihimete and a safe and mindful festive season and I look forward to seeing what 2020 reveals. Bring it! The New Year is always a great time to consider creating new habits and I would be honoured to be part of your New Year where everything is possible and where you can make manifest your dreams and aspirations.
Im no neuroscientist, and I certainly don't have any PhDs apart from being qualified to master my own thinking. It's an interesting path that I find myself on and it doesn't come without it's challenges especially around where I 'fit' when it comes to health care and therapy. I would place myself in energy psychotherapy and coaching. I was faced with my own self doubt last week with someone who is trained in cognitive neuroscience, and how quickly I dismissed my own experience when confronted with a qualification such as a PhD. However, I made the decision to back myself and express what I knew had worked for me over ten years ago when I started to put pieces together in my own mental health that lay outside of mainstream methods. Whilst myself and the very intelligent PhD person shared the same objectives and goals, it became very evident that our pathways to achieve them were going to differ. Dr O (not real name) believes in the body/mind connection, as do I, and that by changing the body and making it healthy will change the mind which will support the body etc. This of course is quite traditional and is undeniably accurate from that pathway of science. However, it wasn't that pathway that got me through depression and anxiety and gave me the sustainability that I needed to survive and to transform to the mentally healthier person I am today. I set about changing my thinking and my mind first - which then changed me biologically. Same/same but different!.. The fundamental difference is at a cellular level of understanding, but like I said Im no biologist, Im just someone who has a real thirst for Quantum Science because I experimented with it when traditional methods wern't working for me. Our current Newtonian science supports that we are 'matter' first which can create an effect, but Quantum Science and the work of Dr Bruce Lipton goes beyond matter to reveal that we are in fact energy systems first who can change the effect to create matter. Im very very thankful and grateful that I have had the lived experience I had – beating depression through changing my beliefs to create new neural pathways was the missing peace for me and one which I stand by more and more as I see this shift in thinking that is going global and at last can not be stopped as more and more people are waking up. Ancient civilisations have always understood this, somewhere along the way we missed the subtle but important shift that took us down the pathway we have been taught. Like a space shuttle in orbit, just 1 degree off the algorithim means an entirely different outcome. My work in my private practise is all about that 1 degree difference of transforming beliefs to create a different effect to create a healthier life. Although I might be out on a limb and dismissed by many, I will stand by my own experience and feel more than comfortable now that the research supports what I got to experience and what ancient civiliations have known for centuries.
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