If there was ONE thing that someone could have taught me when trying to battle the destructive thoughts in my head years ago, it would have been some brief education around basic neuro science and 'semantics'. I've had plenty of counselling and 'therapy' over the years but it was neuro science that really put me in the drivers seat of my own life. Some simple education combined with some basic practises could have saved me and my family years of distress and disruptiveness. However, I can't change the past but I can use it as leverage for any future bumps in the road, plus the added bonus of being able to pass this on to others who want to know. In my life I have been told by many that it's NOT OK to be so emotional!.. Ha!.. Well quantum science begs to differ and turns out that being aware of our emotions is key to our mental/emotional/physical and spiritual wellbeing. Also turns out that our feeling centre is our 'heart' and it has more neural pathways in than our brain. We've been fed a bit of a lie in that it's our feelings that can more effectively shift our thinking rather than the other way around. Obviously the key is to have a degree of awareness, without awareness we can't take the next step of regulating our selves if that's what's needed. As a mindset Coach it's my role to offer support and techniques that assist us in moving past some of those really destructive emotions that keep us stuck in a recognized pattern. I don't encourage people to tell me their 'story' or the context of their stress, because the past is not where the answers are. The past is the WHY but the past can't offer the HOW to move forward, only the present moment can. I appreciate that it can be difficult to break patterns of a life time even when we recognize that what we are doing or not doing is destructive for us. I like to think of this 'stuckness' like an addiction and in order to let go of something we don't want, we need to start with knowing what we DO want. As a coach I get to hear and see the fear of the need to let go in order for something new to come in. However it's also why people come to see me, to talk about 'letting go' of the feelings which might be getting in the way of their happiness. We didn't learn how to drive a car by simply reading about it, watching others, or constantly talking about how much we wanted to do it!. We had to jump behind the wheel and start DO ing it. It's the same process when we know we need to change something in our lives to improve our wellbeing, and only by taking either a step or a leap into unknown territory can lasting change and new habits form. Im running regular workshops all about this, or I meet with people one to one. The next workshop is in September, so if this speaks to you for any reason please contact me or 'like' my fb page to keep updated.
The search for 'truth' can sometimes take us down the path of science, and yet even science it seems is conflicting at times. Being a bit of a self confessed 'geek' in this area this is what I've discovered so far, and as a follower of the work of quantum scientists this is my lamans understanding of the conflict and the common ground. Newtonian physics is the physics of everyday things that we can see, from pebbles to planets. Quantum science on the other hand is the physics of the atoms, particles to wave, or energy fields. Both sciences are super accurate but they are fundamentally different. In Newtonian physics identification of all the properties can be done, and it's easily calculated because of being able to clearly identify cause and effect. i.e. something exists and it's causing something else because of it's existence. In quantum science however, through simple observation, the effect is caused. i.e. we create the effect through what is observed. Simply put, quantum therefore relies on the powers of observation from the observer to create an actualization. There is a common ground here in this context though, and that is 'what we focus on is going to grow in magnitude' no matter what science lens we look at things through. So my thinking around this relative to personal health is that it's really critical what we focus on. This is where our attitudes and our upbringing significantly matters as between 0 and 7 years of age we are literally downloading some fundamentals of who we think we are, for better or for worse. The bigger an emotion attached to any experience, the more crystallized it then becomes, have that experience over and over again and beliefs get more firmly entrenched and inform our personal reality - or our personality. Then when we are adults and we discover that some of that stuff is getting in our way of living a life we want, we then have to change some habitual ways of thinking. Im a little more simpler these days with less focus on what's wrong and more on what's right, which brings me more of a life of thriving rather than one of just surviving. I now work smarter not harder! and are able to coach others who seek the same. Not everybody wants to take the path of lesser resistance, but having experienced both I know categorically which one I now choose. Great philosophers and shamans have always known that we need to seek within first, and quantum science certainly supports that as it's from that platform that we get to create rather than wait for something or someone else to come along. I see the two sciences mentioned more simply described as the " what comes first the chicken or the egg" analogy, and in quantum science they can exist simultaneously, however the other science one would come before the other. So if you would like to know more about how quantum science and applying 4 simple principles can increase your creativity and quality of life, please don't miss my small workshop on the 8th August. It's limited to 7 people. Details on my fb page Holistic Coaching - By Conscious Design or private message me. www.carlascoachingforhealth.com
It wasn't that long ago I harboured a deep resentment around double standards and injustices, and the more I fought for what I felt was right, the more disconnected I became from myself and from those around me. It's cost me a few relationships over the years. I truly believed that I would find a peace fighting for human rights - and fight I did!. Did I ever find the justice that I sought? No I did not. Instead what I unearthed was even more injustice which in all honesty simply contributed to my anger. Does this mean that Im any less passionate about justice and human rights? No it does not. What it does mean is that I have grown past the need for closure, or to build an army. Whilst I would have happily lead a revolution at the time, I also experienced first hand how stress impacts on us and our families. Fast forward 10 years or so and I've found that being a peaceful warrior far more effective and efficient. Choosing the path of lesser resistance doesn't mean weakness, but rather requires greater strength as it means a recognition of no longer feeding the problem with the same emotion that created the issues in the first place. i.e. anger and resentment. In the words of Einstein " We can not solve our problems with the same thinking that created them" The work of Deepak Chopra, Joe Dispenza, and many more scientists have gone on past Einsteins work and have now proven that all life is vibrational. What this new science tells us is that our emotions emit a signal, or resonance, and what we allow will align, for better or worse. This now makes perfect sense to me why my anger simply exposed even more of the same. My life changed when I moved past my own rage, not by denying my destructive emotions but rather not been dictated by them. What I now do is that every time I feel that rush of red anger, I feel it and acknowledge it and then park it up. What I do next is critical as I counter act it with a very conscious act of sourcing a feeling that brings me peace. Sometimes this means that we might have to risk walking away from those who try to draw us back into their part of the drama, after all we are always in relationship. Taking responsibility for my own anger is empowering, and whilst useful should I need it for a life or death situation, it's a hindrance in day to day living, except to shine the light on where Im getting caught in old dramas. Thinking this way didn't just happen overnight, I had to make it a practice, and as a result Im in a much better position to be able to support people who are struggling with destructive emotions too. When our anger is our default emotion then life is hard, heavy and exhausting, and we tend to externalize it completely on to others irrespective. Im now inspired by great wise teachers that have gone before us like Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela who would not have known the science behind their korero, but ultimately their message was one of peace. I still see red, but I take the time to dilute it to pink - the colour of love not war and the new science can now verify just how powerful love is and what we can achieve through practising it. It may well be the beginning of a new age. www.carlascoachingforhealth.com fb: https://www.facebook.com/CC4Health/
Nature or Nurture? Historically we have been told that we are a product of 50/50, however thanks to the work of Dr Bruce Lipton and his research we now know differently. This information is readily available at our fingertips or his book The Biology of Belief. Bruce Lipton is a cell biologist, however his work is integrated with philosophy and ancient wisdoms. This has been incredibly validating and liberating for me, no longer do I have to play small and deny who I really am. It was only a few years ago when other's would dismiss me as as someone with strange and weird ideas. I've even had religious folk pray for my soul!. But NO MORE thanks to science and our access to this knowledge. I've also discovered there is millions who think just like me which again I find comforting. This still doesn't exclude me from other's judgements, especially since the new (not new) science turns a lot of paradigms upside down. Lets face it not everyone is like me and wants to be curious about the bigger questions in life. Going down this rabbit hole means that one needs to be vulnerable and open to change, so I can understand why people avoid it. Not knowing is sometimes a more peaceful option, because once we know then we can't un do it. We can try and pretend we don't know things, but I've found life to be more stressful when in denial, and stress according to Bruce Lipton is responsible for 90% of our illness and diseases. There is plenty of other modern day professionals around the globe who are also doing this work; Dr Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden, Heart Math Institue, Deepak Chopra and more. They all appear to share a common goal, just different ways of saying the same thing. Science has helped me satisfy my strong logical brain, and for me has been the missing link between what I feel and what I think. This all might sound simple, and on one level it is. Letting go of what could be years of conditioning always comes with resistance, not only from our 'self' but from those around us. Our change might increase the risk of losing some people in our life.. My dear Poppa used to say to me "Carla you can't lose what you never had anyway"... which was a nice way of saying that those who unconditionally support and love me will always be there no matter. There's some comfort in my Poppa's wisdom. if you're new to my type of korero or mahi, and are curious I would recommend just start surfing around. Why Dr Lipton's work isn't mainstream is beyond me, Im suspecting that the reasons are to do with money. We all know that we currently have a system where power and control is reflected through our attachment to the $ so to deflect people to seek to empower themselves is not going to happen easily. The work of these new scientists teaches people how to tap into their own potentials first and then everything else follows. For whatever reason, I've found myself in the position of supporting others who want to explore this new (not new) way of being in the world, and what people can find there is ways to gently transcend old paradigms and create new ones. WHAT gets created is totally up to the individual as my role is to simply re-introduce them back to themselves from a holistic position of body/mind/heart/earth. It's simply ancient wisdom re visited through the language of science. www.carlascoachingforhealth.com or fb: Holistic Coaching - By Conscious Design
When we try and avoid any sort of discomfort in our lives we do so for good reasons. Somewhere in our past we have experienced something that has now conditioned us to avoid certain things, and we won't necessarily be aware of why. Last weekend I held a small workshop and we talked about patterns, and those that identified a familiar pattern in their life I encouraged them to think about it from an advantageous position. A little different way of looking at it I know, but hear me out. When we see a repeated pattern in our life and recognise that we are always central to it, we have taken the first step of empowerment. Discovering the possibility that life might not be as random as we have been lead to believe, can place us in a very powerful position. Either this ongoing pattern is one hell of a co-incidence, or we actually might have some control here. Is life luck and randomness? or not? Not accepting repeated patterns as a co-incidence will take us down the rabbit hole of self discovery and empowerment. A road where we will have far more control, consolidation, choices and freedom! As tantalising as that sounds, it does require mental agility and bucket loads of vulnerability. A pathway where we come face to face with ourselves, the good parts and the destructive or shadow parts. I follow the work of Dr Bruce Lipton and others alike, who share the common ground of the relationship between what we think, act and feel and how that impacts on us and others. Self reflection from the perspective of a recognized need for change is a big subject and one that can be debated for hours depending on which science you sit on. For me, Im a quantum science kind of girl who believes that the uncomfortable and always unwelcomed experiences of conflict, contrast and adversity, actually stimulate emotions that give me the leverage to create what I do want. How do I know what I want unless Im able to identify what I dont want? and it's our hearts that will let us know if we are still enough to hear. The recent research and discovery that our hearts are more than a pump station and are in fact a neural power house, has been the best discovery for human kind this century I believe. New science has also proven that not only do our emotions affect us and each other in a very physical way, but our emotions affect the planet as well. What we do with our own emotions is still a choice we are lucky enough to have, they can be key indicators that can lead us to our wildest dreams. Lets face it, it's not going to be too long before AI's are everywhere and we will miss the uniqueness of each other. Im holding another workshop again soon so please secure your spot if this personal work is of interest to you. Message on fb https://www.facebook.com/CC4Health/?ref=bookmarks or www.carlascoachingforhealth.com
Lockdown bought me face to face with the duality of perspective that only change can bring. Discomfort is not something I 'seek out', but when it's here I tend to wallow in it, torn between striving and thriving in it. The pause button on life was 'hit' for whatever reason, and maybe it was not only for Mother Nature, but for us inhabitants as well. I for one grabbed the chance to explore this new space knowing full well that I was unlikely to have this opportunity again. Rather than focusing on the irritation of upheaval, I made a conscious decision to do something else, and that was to explore my values, beliefs and principles whilst external distractions came to a grinding halt. What I discovered frankly surprised me! Just when I thought I knew what I was about, something comes along and makes me question everything!. What I discovered was confronting; and when we are faced with something that we know deep down is holding us back, we have to make a choice. It's in the choice I find that the internal battle is activated, and I had to work at having to override my rational mind which was hot on my heels. I literally heard the 'inner critic' in me instructing me to "do as you're told Carla" and I had to tell 'her' to sit down!. The 'pause' was powerful, and my hearts desire won over my analytical brain, thank goodness. I can only describe my hearts call like experiencing a new breath, a moment, a stopping of time, and in this space not only did I find mental freedom but extreme clarity as well. However I had to surrender to it and that always takes a degree of courage. Looking back, how could I have not seen what now I see as so obvious? This surrendering to me is the 'gift' and I so want to feel that again and again, it's better than any drug I've ever tried. Addictive? yes but a healthy one and an addiction that brings me a peace filled life. I also know it's the place that I don't get to stay for long periods of time as I realise that if I lived in that endless state of freedom that this space gifts me, where everything is satisfying and blissful, then I would miss the experience of the tension that exists in the striving and the attainment to get to this space. That pinch of discomfort to me is the catalyst that I need to keep my momentum going towards what I can only describe as joy or my ongoing alignment to who I believe whoever 'me' is. This ongoing work in progress I am more than happy to accept, and Im not sure whether it's the exploration that might even excite me more than the 'result'? If you are someone whose ready to try and understand your own need for change, then Im facilitating a small workshop on the 6th June where as a group, we can discover or re-awaken some of our hearts desires where you may decide to be called to action? or not. Please message me on fb or www.carlascoachingforhealth.com as it will be limited numbers. Arohanui Carla.
Hello New World! - at least that's what it feels like. A world full of familiar faces and places, and yet everything feels so very different! Im wondering as Im writing this how many other people have found this to be their experience as well? How have you been coping in this new landscape? Has anything surfaced that has needed your attention? It certainly did for me, resulting in letting some things go that frankly took me by surprise. I did however find it strangely comforting to know that I wasn't alone in facing challenges, and that COVID 19 had affected everyone one way or another. If you too had a major change amidst all this upheaval, then my wish for you is that it's turned out, or is going to turn out for the better. Taking a leap of faith either through our own choice or because of something outside our control will create a whole new trajectory, and we simply have to keep as steady as we can whilst we wait for things to settle. To try and fight change will just create more anxiety, and we know this if we are honest with ourselves. If we are panicking then we may miss the new doors that miraculously open offering us new opportunities. Maybe these possibilities have been quietly waiting for our arrival for some time? I know that's what it felt like for me anyway. Behind these doors for me was a cascade of new opportunities, that had I not taken the jump into the unknown, may never have surfaced. Those interested in the Johari Psychological model will find relevent reference here, and those interested in Quantum science will have come across the latest in the relationship between our thinking/emotions and cells. Science has revealed that up to 95% of illness and dis-ease are stress related, so it's certainly worth a bit of research. What informs our reason for making changes only we get to decide, and when change is forced on us? then we still have some control - just not initially if we are triggered into a fight or flight response. In this state it's pointless trying to figure anything out, we just have to surf the wave until we find enough internal steadiness to be able to make our next move. We have to start with recognising what it is that needs to change, or at least what is it that we don't want. So step one is assessing how we feel. For me I then had to accept the feelings of anxiety that came along with all that realization, rather than pushing them back down and trying to rationalize my way out of them again, I said OK "lets feel this"!.. Ouch!. No more denial for me, my excuses had run their course. When we are able to face some of our rawest emotions, (and I recommend not alone) then the symptoms of stress can start to move through us rather than being constantly and consistently stored. When we keep rejecting what deep down we know we must do, our stress hormones continue to run amok wreaking havoc on our prescious bodies. For me It's been the ideal time for reflection and prioritising what habits and people stay in my life, and although this has been quite a dramatic shift, I intend to keep up this practice so I can live a life more aligned to my values and principles. The veil has been lifted and there is no turning back, we don't get to 'unknow' what we now know. An invisible wall has fallen to reveal a layer of 'truth' that I needed to claim. Whilst it scared the hell out of me initially? its also bought out the best of me and my 'letting go' has allowed something so much more joyful 'in'. Maybe this time of cleansing hasn't just been for our beautiful mother earth, maybe it's been our time individually and collectively as well.
Consciously Creating Collectively
I believe that there has never been a better time for me to take a huge leap of faith and combine my 'lived' experience with my Coaching & Counselling skills. My need to align myself with those who value what I have to offer has become so loud that I had to make some big decisions during COVID 19. My model of coaching is one which has developed, and is still developing, since 2010 after I emerged from a decade of depression and anxiety. What happened was so profound and simple that I could no longer deny it's potential and frankly it would be wrong to. How I found my 'missing piece' was thanks to a more holistic approach, which for me, had to include a blend of neuroscience and ancient wisdom.
Quantum Science was able to satisfy my incredibly strong analytical mind whilst also teaching me that I was more than my thoughts. I was in fact a vibrational heart centred being that needed to learn what my electromagnetic signature was emitting. I became a conscious creator, rather than a creator by default, which then lead me to make decisions based on a very different paradigm. Obviously this isn't something you do once, it's on going and for me 12 years later? I have never looked back. I recently had an experience which really tested my ability to walk my talk and although it was deeply painful I again managed to come through by following the same practices. The best respect I can give myself and other's is by continuing to walk my talk and to share my inspiration in the hope that it might touch others. My mission statement: - Finding your peace through presence to return 'home'. Arohanui Carla.
Dr Bruce Lipton says there is 4 ways we can change our subconscious mind. I offer 3 of those applications, but right now we are all thrown into the 4th one...What's the 4th one? A large life event where we are forced to shift our thinking when life as we 'knew it' has changed. This means that there has never been a better global time where we are all more conscious and can reflect on our lives and what we value. This is an opportunity to do a 'self' audit with little distractions, a free re-treat where we can be creative and choose what our next chapter might look like. We may never get this opportunity again.
The Law Of Attraction as I understand it:
Is based on the belief that we are energy and we transmit and receive energy equal to what our frequency level is. How do we then attract our dreams/aspirations/ and future wants in to the present moment in order to lift our frequency to match what we desire?
**Firstly we have to know what it is we are wanting**
**Secondly we then need to create the feeling like we already have it**
(which is more than an affirmation)
An affirmation tells us what we think we want and is a great place to start but on it's own it won't be enough unless we can create the feeling associated with it.
How do we do that?
There is many ways and it's what I explore with my clients. It is so unique to the individual and sometimes takes some 'teasing' out - after all if we knew how to do it we would be already doing it !
We WILL create one way or another - Let's use the power of our free will to create a future we like.
Wayne Dyer: "be the change you want to see"