Lockdown bought me face to face with the duality of perspective that only change can bring. Discomfort is not something I 'seek out', but when it's here I tend to wallow in it, torn between striving and thriving in it. The pause button on life was 'hit' for whatever reason, and maybe it was not only for Mother Nature, but for us inhabitants as well. I for one grabbed the chance to explore this new space knowing full well that I was unlikely to have this opportunity again. Rather than focusing on the irritation of upheaval, I made a conscious decision to do something else, and that was to explore my values, beliefs and principles whilst external distractions came to a grinding halt. What I discovered frankly surprised me! Just when I thought I knew what I was about, something comes along and makes me question everything!. What I discovered was confronting; and when we are faced with something that we know deep down is holding us back, we have to make a choice. It's in the choice I find that the internal battle is activated, and I had to work at having to override my rational mind which was hot on my heels. I literally heard the 'inner child' in me instructing me to "do as you're told Carla" and I had to tell 'her' to sit down!. The 'pause' was powerful, and my hearts desire won over my analytical brain, thank goodness. I can only describe my hearts call like experiencing a new breath, a moment, a stopping of time, and in this space not only did I find mental freedom but extreme clarity as well. However I had to surrender to it and that always takes a degree of courage. Looking back, how could I have not seen what now I see as so obvious? This surrendering to me is the 'gift' and I so want to feel that again and again, it's better than any drug I've ever tried. Addictive? yes but a healthy one and an addiction that brings me a peace filled life. I also know it's the place that I don't get to stay for long periods of time as I realise that if I lived in that endless state of freedom that this space gifts me, where everything is satisfying and blissful, then I would miss the experience of the tension that exists in the striving and the attainment to get to this space. That pinch of discomfort to me is the catalyst that I need to keep my momentum going towards what I can only describe as joy or my ongoing alignment to who I believe whoever 'me' is. This ongoing work in progress I am more than happy to accept, and Im not sure whether it's the exploration that might even excite me more than the 'result'? If you are someone whose ready to try and understand your own need for change, then Im facilitating a small workshop on the 6th June where as a group, we can discover or re-awaken some of our hearts desires where you may decide to be called to action? or not. Please message me on fb or www.carlascoachingforhealth.com as it will be limited numbers. Arohanui Carla.
Hello New World! - at least that's what it feels like. A world full of familiar faces and places, and yet everything feels so very different! Im wondering as Im writing this how many other people have found this to be their experience as well? How have you been coping in this new landscape? Has anything surfaced that has needed your attention? It certainly did for me, resulting in letting some things go that frankly took me by surprise. I did however find it strangely comforting to know that I wasn't alone in facing challenges, and that COVID 19 had affected everyone one way or another. If you too had a major change amidst all this upheaval, then my wish for you is that it's turned out, or is going to turn out for the better. Taking a leap of faith either through our own choice or because of something outside our control will create a whole new trajectory, and we simply have to keep as steady as we can whilst we wait for things to settle. To try and fight change will just create more anxiety, and we know this if we are honest with ourselves. If we are panicking then we may miss the new doors that miraculously open offering us new opportunities. Maybe these possibilities have been quietly waiting for our arrival for some time? I know that's what it felt like for me anyway. Behind these doors for me was a cascade of new opportunities, that had I not taken the jump into the unknown, may never have surfaced. Those interested in the Johari Psychological model will find relevent reference here, and those interested in Quantum science will have come across the latest in the relationship between our thinking/emotions and cells. Science has revealed that up to 95% of illness and dis-ease are stress related, so it's certainly worth a bit of research. What informs our reason for making changes only we get to decide, and when change is forced on us? then we still have some control - just not initially if we are triggered into a fight or flight response. In this state it's pointless trying to figure anything out, we just have to surf the wave until we find enough internal steadiness to be able to make our next move. We have to start with recognising what it is that needs to change, or at least what is it that we don't want. So step one is assessing how we feel. For me I then had to accept the feelings of anxiety that came along with all that realization, rather than pushing them back down and trying to rationalize my way out of them again, I said OK "lets feel this"!.. Ouch!. No more denial for me, my excuses had run their course. When we are able to face some of our rawest emotions, (and I recommend not alone) then the symptoms of stress can start to move through us rather than being constantly and consistently stored. When we keep rejecting what deep down we know we must do, our stress hormones continue to run amok wreaking havoc on our prescious bodies. For me It's been the ideal time for reflection and prioritising what habits and people stay in my life, and although this has been quite a dramatic shift, I intend to keep up this practice so I can live a life more aligned to my values and principles. The veil has been lifted and there is no turning back, we don't get to 'unknow' what we now know. An invisible wall has fallen to reveal a layer of 'truth' that I needed to claim. Whilst it scared the hell out of me initially? its also bought out the best of me and my 'letting go' has allowed something so much more joyful 'in'. Maybe this time of cleansing hasn't just been for our beautiful mother earth, maybe it's been our time individually and collectively as well.
Consciously Creating Collectively
I believe that there has never been a better time for me to take a huge leap of faith and combine my 'lived' experience with my Coaching & Counselling skills. My need to align myself with those who value what I have to offer has become so loud that I had to make some big decisions during COVID 19. My model of coaching is one which has developed, and is still developing, since 2010 after I emerged from a decade of depression and anxiety. What happened was so profound and simple that I could no longer deny it's potential and frankly it would be wrong to. How I found my 'missing piece' was thanks to a more holistic approach, which for me, had to include a blend of neuroscience and ancient wisdom.
Quantum Science was able to satisfy my incredibly strong analytical mind whilst also teaching me that I was more than my thoughts. I was in fact a vibrational heart centred being that needed to learn what my electromagnetic signature was emitting. I became a conscious creator, rather than a creator by default, which then lead me to make decisions based on a very different paradigm. Obviously this isn't something you do once, it's on going and for me 12 years later? I have never looked back. I recently had an experience which really tested my ability to walk my talk and although it was deeply painful I again managed to come through by following the same practices. The best respect I can give myself and other's is by continuing to walk my talk and to share my inspiration in the hope that it might touch others. My mission statement: - Finding your peace through presence to return 'home'. Arohanui Carla.
Dr Bruce Lipton says there is 4 ways we can change our subconscious mind. I offer 3 of those applications, but right now we are all thrown into the 4th one...What's the 4th one? A large life event where we are forced to shift our thinking when life as we 'knew it' has changed. This means that there has never been a better global time where we are all more conscious and can reflect on our lives and what we value. This is an opportunity to do a 'self' audit with little distractions, a free re-treat where we can be creative and choose what our next chapter might look like. We may never get this opportunity again.
The Law Of Attraction as I understand it:
Is based on the belief that we are energy and we transmit and receive energy equal to what our frequency level is. How do we then attract our dreams/aspirations/ and future wants in to the present moment in order to lift our frequency to match what we desire?
**Firstly we have to know what it is we are wanting**
**Secondly we then need to create the feeling like we already have it**
(which is more than an affirmation)
An affirmation tells us what we think we want and is a great place to start but on it's own it won't be enough unless we can create the feeling associated with it.
How do we do that?
There is many ways and it's what I explore with my clients. It is so unique to the individual and sometimes takes some 'teasing' out - after all if we knew how to do it we would be already doing it !
We WILL create one way or another - Let's use the power of our free will to create a future we like.
Wayne Dyer: "be the change you want to see"
It's no co-incidence that I named my 'blog' in the Midweek 'Expose Yourself' some ten years ago now. Why did I name my column this? Because I believe that it is only through facing our 'selves' (and especially in times of chaos) can we discover who we 'really' are. Our strengths, and our weaknessess, which all fall from what we perceive or believe our-selves to be. The only way past something which reveals to us what we are afraid of, is through it I have found..It's that delicate balance between being able to control what we can but recognising how vulnerable we not only are, but need to be as well inorder for a new future to unfurl. Somewhere in the present moment I have found that there is a tender and fragile balance between controlling and letting go...Some people call it 'being in the moment' other's call it 'presence' it really doesn't matter what we 'name' it I've found - whatever that space is has a vibration and as science now tells us is so magnetic....Thousands times more powerful than any other thought. Although I thought I 'knew' this over a decade ago - I look back and say to myself I really didn't 'know' it at all.. and I suspect I will look back in another ten years saying the same thing. However what only matters to me now is my intention to keep holding the tension between what is realised 'in this moment' and professionally all I can offer is to teach others how to do the same - but like any piece of information it's only going to be as good as our willingness to accept, and practise what we know or have learned - and that will only depend on our value and belief in it...The leap to presence isn't as hard as it seems - but rather the path of least resistance. I would thoroughly recommend it.
According to Gregg Braden we are the only beings on this planet that are able to consciously create.. or in other words we have the potential to be able to determine the difference between making a decision from our head or our heart. The work of Dr Bruce Lipton cell biologist also supports this. These Quantum scientists have revealed that our brain is a 'polarity organ' which means that our logical brain is fantastic at 'thinking' and weighing things up in a yes/no fashion. (for those of us who are fortunate to have a fully functioning brain). This leads to another question, then what is our thinking based on? It's common knowledge now that all our beliefs and values from everything that we have experienced and gave memorable meaning too (positive and not so positive), has informed who we 'think' we are. However this does not mean we are a victim to our own thinking. The same new science and the work of Gregg Braden and The Heart Math Institute has also revealed that the human heart has it's own brain, and is by far the more powerful of the two organs when it comes to making decisions and in fact our heart brain talks to our polarity organ and not the other way around like we have been lead to believe. This little piece of information can be life changing if it is heard, re-remembered and more importantly, practiced. One of the reasons why I now choose to regularly meditate and why it's a recommended practise for all of us is that meditation is proven to reduce the 'white noise' that goes on in our brains and when this 'clutter' reduces we can be more connected to our heart brain. Meditation is also proven to increase immunity and decrease stress, which is worth remembering especially now. When we are more in our heart brain we create a vibration which has a specific frequency, some scientists are calling this 'love', Einstein was one of those. (Love talked about here in the sense of a frequency rather than an emotion). We know when we have hit that frequency because there is such an overwhelming sense of connection that it can not be analyzed in our brain. It's beyond words. When I learnt Heart Coherence as a technique last year in Sedona I bought it back to my practise and have been actively passing this on to my clients in the context of what's happening for them in their lives. Our korero shifts between the need to analyze and talk about what's going on and the need to increase heart vibration and create something other than the experiences that their beliefs are seemingly holding them back from. The work I do can be researched by googling psychoneuroimmunology for those who need to satisfy their polarity organ. We don't need a degree to do this work it's available to all of us and is all over the net. I've recognised for many many years that the science of self help has to start from within and I only got to that point because of a decade of inner turmoil and conflict which was always my leverage to want something 'else' I just didn't know what. I practised lots of external stimulu's which of course lead to a shift internally, it just took a lot longer and it was hard to maintain when working from my logical organ only. I tried much, from crystals, to exercise, to a huge range of products which all supported my wellbeing, but none for me hit my call 'home'. Everyone is responsible for the thoughts they think and the things that we choose as our objects of attention. Personally I found it important to give as many things a go until I found the right ingredients that gave the right meaning for me. If you would like to join a group of like minds to talk about the Heart Coherence work please get hold of me or simply join our group on fb 'Stepping Into A New Paradigm'. Our lives can be explained, considered, talked about and debated , but in the end it will be our feelings that drive us through any experience. www.carlascoachingforhealth.com or https://www.facebook.com/CC4Health/
It's no secret the sort of work I do in my private practise and that it slightly differs than that of mainstream. Personally, for me Im only interested now in any research that comes from where Quantum Science and Philosophy meet, or any sort of values based practices. In mainstream there still is some great professional development available to me, but it doesn't quite hit the spot. What really makes my wheels spin is the work of Dr Bruce Lipton, Gregg Braden, Dr Joe Dispenza, Dr Kerry Spackman, Heart Math Institute, Deepak Chopra and the late Wayne Dyer. Some up and coming physicians are also getting on board with this work as well! If anyone knows of any kiwi physicians who are stepping into the world of Quantum? Please forward them my details!.. I couldn't think of anything more exciting to be part of what appears to be a global awakening. Why am I so passionate about this is not just for fun, and neither is it just riding the latest trend, but rather it's because of my own lived experience. It was these Quantum principles and techniques that took me from just 'surviving' to thriving and also the reason for me starting this column some ten years ago now. Something significant happened to me when applying these techniques that I simply can no longer minimize for fear of being outside the 'norms'. Last year I also attended a conference in Sedona Arizona, where I was privvy to the latest information from The Heart Math Institute and some of the above scientists. This was a real catalyst for me to dive in even deeper into this work and I knew on my return that things would have to change, and they did. It's curious that our biomedical model hasn't yet embraced the work of Dr Bruce Lipton because he is after all a cell biologist? Im wondering what the barrier is there? His discovery some 50 years ago now, is only just getting heard and Epigenetics is now widely accepted in the Quantum Science circles. At the core of his work is the relationship between subconscious beliefs and our responses and environment. There is 4 ways that Dr Lipton says we can shift a subconscious belief and my own private practise offers 3 of those. We look at moving forward based on today, I don't go back to the past, I leave that for those who think they are going to find something there. My work is about tapping into potentials and creating something 'else'.
Im due to be back in Sedona in May for some more professional development with Anita Moorjani, who has one incredible story to tell and who also fully supports the 'heart' coherence and Heart Math kaupapa. If you would like to know more about what I do please find me online or give me a call. Www.carlascoachingforhealth.com fb: https://www.facebook.com/CC4Health/
<3An experience from someone who crossed over the veil:....: " I was given a choice to stay or come back. I was given a message that we make our earthbound life so complicated and it’s not meant to be that way. It’s just about love. To love ourselves, to give love and to receive love. That’s it. We are just meant to ‘be’ and to stop striving to make ourselves perfect. We are earthbound but ultimately we are all part on ‘one’ energy. I know it sounds blase but I was shown this and felt this so clearly.
Since coming back from the veil, my learning has continued everyday from the source. I feel I am everyone and everything and they are all me too. Therefore we are within the energy to be able to attract what we want. That’s why this meme strikes a chord. If there is a belief within you that you don’t deserve what you want or believe that you’ll never get it... then you won’t. It’s as simple as that. The energy that you expend will be matched to come back in.
I’ve been told by numerous doctors I should be dead. They don’t know how I am alive. Even now. From what happened. But I knew I was going to live, simple as that, so I did what my body and mind needed me to do to live. I matched my frequency. I did not even entertain thoughts that I wasn’t going to get better or that i was going to die.
It’s the idea that we are separate from anyone or anything that stops you. It’s that, that halts everything.
I still get sub conscious patterns coming up but I now feel like I am an observer and they end up floating away as the spark of energy doesn’t connect fully to me as I am now. The human experience can be difficult and one of the biggest challenges I’ve had since June last year is everyone else’s opinions on my healing and what I should and shouldn’t be doing rather than letting me listen to what my internal connection is telling me.
It’s quite hard to explain.
Another thing I learned is that we don’t need to keep paying for all these courses.. nobody has the secret to it all... no one is a guru and no one is above us, if we keep holding them in higher esteem we are separating ourselves from the one energy again. I also stand by everyone’s own opinion of what works so I am no way putting down their belief.
Anyway, I hope it helps a little. Remember you have all your own answers within x " DL.. 🌸💓🌈🙏🏻😇
There is nothing woo woo about meditation, all it does is to create a calmer mind to be more present in order to recognise what is the better path of least resistance. When chaos visits, as it does, a calmer mind will ensure we make a better choice for ourselves especially if we have been practising the heart coherence work which not only keeps us grounded and centred on what we REALLY want, it's also where abundance and all unmet needs are met. Decisions when we are in this place of coherence means we will immediately recognise what that path of least resistance looks like. It's harder to NOT be in our hearts than it is to be. The path of least resistance is a return to LOVE or a return to HEARTS. <3 <3 <3